I just wound up a friend’s birthday party in my house. She wanted a theme. So I suggested that we have a slutty party. It was an all women’s party, mostly queer women. I thought it was a good chance to wear the leopard pattern corset I had borrowed from S, a friend, and had virtually made my own now, and also to decorate my living room with all my tools. So whips of various sizes and colours, crops, borrowed handcuffs on the stair case, lingerie hanging on the clothes line now tied on the living room wall…. It was my way of, I guess, wanting my vanilla friends to see my kinky side, without actually coming out to them or telling them that it’s all my stuff. I was excited about that.

It was a fun party. Dancing to munni… and sheela…. Various people fooling around with the handcuffs, trying to undo the lace of my corset, wielding the crop etc. Towards the end of the party K, bless her, begins to get into it. She commands the birthday girl to stand on a particular tile on the floor of a living room, and uses the crop on her silken pants. Next, lo and behold everyone in the room is being summoned and agreeing to surrender to a few strokes. S, the friend whose corset I had borrowed got some too.

We both marvelled at K’s tone of voice, the authority in the voice, the playful yet respectful manner she had with people for whom this might be new. Putting her arm around the person as she struck. I got a few too and wanted many more but there were others K had to attend to. It felt so good to have this supposedly vanilla gathering virtually turning into a mild play party, well not really a play party, but mildly and exciting so.

Unfortunately one of my friends, a closet domme, decided that instead of surrendering to K, she wanted to be the domme. K wanted time to switch modes and I took the opportunity to volunteer. But my friends’ girl friend made it clear that she was not amused and it all sort of came to an end. But it felt so good. Almost emotional to connect in a kinky way with these friends. I really think we are all kinky. Kinky and vanilla is a continuum!! And for the first time I figured a play party might be fun and not as embarrassing or strange as I thought it would be. Hmmm…